The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect UsDefences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive communication.When we have come from a…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?Learning to be Compliant and AgreeableWhen we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into being compliant,…
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Our Biological Defences
What are our Biological Defences? Our biological defences are made up of our brain, nervous system, body and emotions working together to protect us from harm. This article looks at…
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Avoiding The Avoidable
What is Avoidance?Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening.It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence mechanism to…
Societal Gaslighting And Narcissistic Parents
Gaslighting by Society Growing up in a narcissistic family is made more difficult because the child is gaslit within the family and they are also often gaslit by society in…
Children of Narcissists on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRI1HSzwpAc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4nK9bcvg2ghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZU7EP2uMoUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxTaPDbhMf8The Harsh Inner CriticWhy we may struggle to have self-compassion. Narcissistic Personality Disorder and EmpathyWhy do narcissists fail to be empathic?Body Image, Binge Eating, DysmorphiaMany children of narcissists struggle with…
Trauma – Anger, Fear and Shame
Here is a PowerPoint which explains the role of the emotions of Fear, Anger and Shame that come with surviving trauma.
Narcissists and Unhealthy Boundaries
Narcissistic Families and BoundariesWhat are Boundaries?A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for others and…
How We Self-Sabotage
Many children of narcissists self-sabotage as a consequence of their dysfunctional upbringing. Self-sabotage can be defined as acting in a way that is detrimental to both our well-being and to reaching our potential.
Healthy Narcissism Vs. Unhealthy Narcissism
Narcissism originally begins as a response in childhood to developmental issues. Both nature and nurture are influential in the early years in setting up the personality.Elements of narcissism are needed…
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The Narcissistic Mother and Father
The Narcissistic Mother The narcissistic mother is cold, distant, unaffectionate, controlling, critical and jealous. She will not accept her child for who they are and will start to mould them…
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The Fear of Abandonment and Rejection
What is the Fear of Abandonment?A fear of abandonment is a deep-seated fear of being left by people that you are close to. This fear affects your thoughts and behaviours.It…