Parentification
What is Parentification?Parentification can be defined as a functional and/or emotional role reversal where the child's needs become secondary to the parents. Parentification is the result of an intentional or…
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The 10 Capacities of the Real Self – James F. Masterson
James F. Masterson, M.D., was a prominent American psychiatrist who helped to bring the study, understanding and treatment of personality disorders, especially narcissistic and borderline, into the mainstream. He wrote…
YouTube – (Almost) Everything You Need to Know
The video below talks about issues which are common outcomes for children of narcissistic parents. The topics included and other relevant YouTube videos you may like to watch and articles…
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YouTube – Mentors and Guidance
Mentorship and guidance are sorely lacking when a person has come from a dysfunctional family. This video talks about where we can find some decent guidance - from books, from…
Cognitive Errors
A child who grows up in a narcissistic family will develop a distorted view of the world and themselves. This is their trauma bias. They will have difficulties in thinking…
The Effects of Verbal Abuse
What is the definition of verbal abuse? Verbal abuse- noun.Very rude and offensive words spoken to another person.https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/verbal-abuse 'I Only Got Shouted At' Abuse takes many forms and some people…
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Was It That Bad? How Low-Key Abuse Has a Profound Effect
Was It That Bad?Many people who have grown up with a narcissistic parent often question whether their childhood was ‘that bad.’ They may know they were unhappy as a child…
The Trauma Bond
Many of us are familiar with the term ‘trauma bond,’ but what does it actually mean? How can we explain the feeling that many people have of being very unhappy…
Why Relationships Can Be Difficult
Why Are Relationships Often Difficult for People Who Have Come From a Narcissistic Family? An issue which troubles many people who come from narcissistic families is that they struggle in…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?Learning to be Compliant and AgreeableWhen we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into being compliant,…
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Avoiding The Avoidable
What is Avoidance?Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening.It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence mechanism to…
Societal Gaslighting And Narcissistic Parents
Gaslighting by Society Growing up in a narcissistic family is made more difficult because the child is gaslit within the family and they are also often gaslit by society in…