The Harsh Inner Critic
Why we may struggle to have self-compassion.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Empathy
Why do narcissists fail to be empathic?
Body Image, Binge Eating, Dysmorphia
Many children of narcissists struggle with issues around food and body image
Why Are Relationships So Difficult?
An issue which troubles many people who come from narcissistic families is that they struggle in their relationships with others – this can be with work colleagues, school or university colleagues, friends, acquaintances, family members and romantic interests/partners.
Avoidance as a Defence Mechanism
As a child of a narcissist, we learn that life is painful and what we naturally deduce from how we are treated is that there is something so bad inside us and that we are such an awful person that those parts of us need to be hidden. We begin to strive to avoid those feelings, memories and parts of ourselves that we feel ashamed of.
NPD – Emotional Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy
Narcissistic Personality Disorder can be likened to Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy but with the difference that people with MSBP cause physical illness in others and people with NPD cause ‘mental illness’ in others.
Why Do We Self-Sabotage?
Many children of narcissists self-sabotage as a consequence of their dysfunctional upbringing.
Self-sabotage can be defined as acting in a way that is detrimental to both our well-being and to reaching our potential.
How Blaming Ourselves Can Help us to Stay Sane
Children of narcissists will often blame themselves at times for what has happened in their relationship with their narcissistic parent. This video explains how that helps us to stay sane.
Identifying The Core beliefs That Hold Us Back
This video discusses what core beliefs are and how we can come to identify our own so that we can change the ones which are holding us back from reaching our potential.
Behavioural Conditioning in a Narcissistic Family
We are products of both nature and nurture. We are born with an inherent character which adapts to the environment we grow up in. This video explains how we are conditioned.
Why Do I Feel Unstable?
This video explores how our brains and nervous systems adapt to growing up in a dysfunctional environment and what that can look like in adulthood.
The Fear of Being Ourselves and The Fear of Abandonment
When a child of a narcissist’s real self wishes to assert itself, this brings on the fear of abandonment.
Why do I Feel so Hopeless?
This video explains how hopelessness can be seen as a defensive response to living and having to find ways to survive in an abusive family.
What is Healthy Narcissism?
This video explores what healthy and unhealthy levels of narcissism look like. Many children of narcissists dislike anything that seems like a narcissistic trait in themselves and want to be the opposite of their narcissistic parent
Boundaries and Emotional Warfare
In Joost Meerloo’s book The Rape of the Mind, he discusses life in the land of ‘Totalitaria’ (a dictatorship) and how the citizens are affected by living under that kind of regime.
I read some excerpts from the book and make comparisons to living under the rule of a narcissist.
How To Heal From Narcissistic Abuse
In this video I discuss what effects narcissists have on their children and partners and what we can do to heal from narcissistic abuse.
Complex PTSD – Triggers and How They Work
A child who has lived in a situation of stress and abuse for a prolonged time will usually develop Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This video explains what triggers are how they work to protect us.
Why Do I Feel so Much Shame?
Many children of narcissists carry many feelings of shame, this video explores how shame is a defence mechanism and its role in helping in surviving a dysfunctional upbringing.
Is my Mum or Dad a Narcissist?
This video is aimed at young people who are wondering if their parent may be narcissistic. It explains what narcissistic personality disorder is and how a parent with NPD affects their children.
Clues That You may Have Complex PTSD
Many children of narcissists have Complex PTSD but may not be aware of it. PTSD shows up in different ways for different people.
The Roots Of Complex PTSD
Attachment theory deals with the relationship between the primary caregiver and their baby. Research has shown that attachment styles are established by the time a child is one year old and will persist into adulthood.
Why Do Narcissists Abuse People?
Narcissistic supply is the name for the driving force behind the behaviours of a narcissist. This driving force is their shaky, unstable self-esteem of which they are largely consciously unaware.
Common Narcissistic Behaviours
This video discusses some of the common things that narcissists do. Narcissistic parents do not respect the physical, psychological or emotional privacy or boundaries of their children.
Why Do I Feel So Guilty?
This video discusses the feelings of guilt that many children of narcissistic parents struggle with.
The Successful Narcissist.
Why Do I Think I Am a Loser?
Many children of narcissists share the same negative beliefs about themselves. This video lists some of the common ones.
What is Your Ace Score?
How adverse childhood experiences continue to affect us in adulthood
The Psychological Development of Children
The difference between healthy and dysfunctional psychological childhood development
Videos on Defence Mechanisms
