What is Avoidance?Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening.It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence mechanism to…
Gaslighting by Society Growing up in a narcissistic family is made more difficult because the child is gaslit within the family and they are also often gaslit by society in…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wK1tP0hchKEhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVp4_V5S2E8Society and the Denial of TraumaIn this video I read an extract from Judith Herman M.D.'s book, Trauma and Recovery, which talks about the reasons why trauma is so often…
Here is a PowerPoint which explains the role of the emotions of Fear, Anger and Shame that come with surviving trauma.
Narcissistic Families and BoundariesWhat are Boundaries?A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for others and…
The Narcissistic Mother The narcissistic mother is cold, distant, unaffectionate, controlling, critical and jealous. She will not accept her child for who they are and will start to mould them…
What is the Fear of Abandonment?A fear of abandonment is a deep-seated fear of being left by people that you are close to. This fear affects your thoughts and behaviours.It…
Many children of narcissists have a complex relationship with food which may come in the form of binge eating. Men and women can both be affected.What is Binge Eating?Binge eating…
Behavioural Conditioning and NarcissismWe are products of both nature and nurture. We are born with an inherent character which adapts to the environment we grow up in. Narcissistic families are…
Adverse Childhood ExperiencesA study was published in 1998 as a collaboration between the Centres for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and Kaiser Permanente (a health care service provider) and was…
This is a simplified diagram of the mental structure of the mind of a narcissist. It is a complex system of defences which protect the conscious mind from the buried…
The Origins of the Term The term 'gaslighting' is taken from the film Gaslight released in 1944. The film concerns a married couple where the husband is abusive. There is…
