The Healthy Self VS The Adversely Affected Self
This article is made up of two lists, one has the characteristics of the healthiest version of ourselves and the other describes how that characteristic can be corrupted, by adversity,…
YouTube – (Almost) Everything You Need to Know
The video below talks about issues which are common outcomes for children of narcissistic parents. The topics included and other relevant YouTube videos you may like to watch and articles…
Losing memories, Repression, Denial, Minimisation
Abuse Amnesia (and other types)
What is Abuse Amnesia? Abuse amnesia can take place in many different types of relationships, if the person is abusive, such as with parental figures, romantic partners, with friends or…
Cognitive Errors
A child who grows up in a narcissistic family will develop a distorted view of the world and themselves. This is their trauma bias. They will have difficulties in thinking…
Workaholic Working On Desktop Computer
Workaholism / Keeping Busy
Workaholism and Keeping Busy (Part of the Abandonment Depression) A workaholic can be defined as a person who spends a majority of their time working compulsively and excessively, often to…
Anxiety, despair and depression
The Abandonment Depression
10,004 words, 60 minutes read time. The Abandonment Depression Adapted from ‘The Search for the Real Self’ by James F. Masterson If we have come from a narcissistic family, understanding…
Society and the Denial of Trauma
Judith Herman is a psychiatrist and author who first proposed Complex PTSD as a separate diagnosis from PTSD.The excerpt below is from the book Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman…
The Effects of Verbal Abuse
What is the definition of verbal abuse? Verbal abuse- noun.Very rude and offensive words spoken to another person.https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/verbal-abuse 'I Only Got Shouted At' Abuse takes many forms and some people…
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Was It That Bad? How Low-Key Abuse Has a Profound Effect
Was It That Bad?Many people who have grown up with a narcissistic parent often question whether their childhood was ‘that bad.’ They may know they were unhappy as a child…
The Trauma Bond
Many of us are familiar with the term ‘trauma bond,’ but what does it actually mean? How can we explain the feeling that many people have of being very unhappy…
The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect UsDefences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive communication.When we have come from a…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?Learning to be Compliant and AgreeableWhen we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into being compliant,…