The Trauma Bond
Many of us are familiar with the term ‘trauma bond,’ but what does it actually mean? How can we explain the feeling that many people have of being very unhappy…
Narcissists and Unhealthy Boundaries
Narcissistic Families and BoundariesWhat are Boundaries?A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for others and…
Healthy Narcissism Vs. Unhealthy Narcissism
Narcissism originally begins as a response in childhood to developmental issues. Both nature and nurture are influential in the early years in setting up the personality.Elements of narcissism are needed…
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The Narcissistic Mother and Father
The Narcissistic Mother The narcissistic mother is cold, distant, unaffectionate, controlling, critical and jealous. She will not accept her child for who they are and will start to mould them…
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The Fear of Abandonment and Rejection
What is the Fear of Abandonment?A fear of abandonment is a deep-seated fear of being left by people that you are close to. This fear affects your thoughts and behaviours.It…
Behavioural Conditioning in a Narcissistic Family
Behavioural Conditioning and NarcissismWe are products of both nature and nurture. We are born with an inherent character which adapts to the environment we grow up in. Narcissistic families are…
The Mental Structure of a Person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
This is a simplified diagram of the mental structure of the mind of a narcissist. It is a complex system of defences which protect the conscious mind from the buried…
The Successful Narcissist
The Real Self and the Adapted SelfA narcissist spends their life defending themselves against the deep wounds inflicted in early childhood (often by their own narcissistic parent). Their strategies to…
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Narcissism and Archetypes
One of the interesting things about those with narcissistic personality disorder is that many of their behaviours are so similar and universal. This could be explained by the concept of…
Gaslighting
The Origins of the Term The term 'gaslighting' is taken from the film Gaslight released in 1944. The film concerns a married couple where the husband is abusive. There is…
Service to Self and Service to Others
Narcissism, Codependency and Spirituality Service to self and service to others are spiritual terms for the paths we take in life and can be seen as expressions of our dualistic…
What is Narcissistic Abuse?
Narcissistic abuse describes the way narcissists behave toward intimate others and the effects it has on them.NPD is a set of defence mechanisms that shape the way people with NPD…
