What is Avoidance?Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening.It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence mechanism to…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wK1tP0hchKEhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OVp4_V5S2E8Society and the Denial of TraumaIn this video I read an extract from Judith Herman M.D.'s book, Trauma and Recovery, which talks about the reasons why trauma is so often…
Here is a PowerPoint which explains the role of the emotions of Fear, Anger and Shame that come with surviving trauma.
Narcissistic Families and BoundariesWhat are Boundaries?A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for others and…
Many children of narcissists self-sabotage as a consequence of their dysfunctional upbringing. Self-sabotage can be defined as acting in a way that is detrimental to both our well-being and to reaching our potential.
What is the Fear of Abandonment?A fear of abandonment is a deep-seated fear of being left by people that you are close to. This fear affects your thoughts and behaviours.It…
Many children of narcissists have a complex relationship with food which may come in the form of binge eating. Men and women can both be affected.What is Binge Eating?Binge eating…
Behavioural Conditioning and NarcissismWe are products of both nature and nurture. We are born with an inherent character which adapts to the environment we grow up in. Narcissistic families are…
This is a simplified diagram of the mental structure of the mind of a narcissist. It is a complex system of defences which protect the conscious mind from the buried…
The Real Self and the Adapted SelfA narcissist spends their life defending themselves against the deep wounds inflicted in early childhood (often by their own narcissistic parent). Their strategies to…
The Moulding of a Child Parents with Narcissistic Personality Disorder often produce children who are chronic people pleasers.This is because their children's characters are suffocated from a young age as…
Some people who have Complex PTSD often do not know that they have it because so much of their emotional life and bodily sensations have been suppressed. Here are some…
