Anxiety, despair and depression
The Abandonment Depression
10,004 words, 53 minutes read time. The Abandonment Depression Adapted from ‘The Search for the Real Self’ by James F. Masterson If we have come from a narcissistic family, understanding…
Society and the Denial of Trauma
Judith Herman is a psychiatrist and author who first proposed Complex PTSD as a separate diagnosis from PTSD.The excerpt below is from the book Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman…
The Effects of Verbal Abuse
What is the definition of verbal abuse? Verbal abuse- noun.Very rude and offensive words spoken to another person.https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/verbal-abuse 'I Only Got Shouted At' Abuse takes many forms and some people…
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Was It That Bad? How Low-Key Abuse Has a Profound Effect
Was It That Bad?Many people who have grown up with a narcissistic parent often question whether their childhood was ‘that bad.’ They may know they were unhappy as a child…
The Trauma Bond
Many of us are familiar with the term ‘trauma bond,’ but what does it actually mean? How can we explain the feeling that many people have of being very unhappy…
The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect UsDefences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive communication.When we have come from a…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?Learning to be Compliant and AgreeableWhen we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into being compliant,…
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Avoiding The Avoidable
What is Avoidance?Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening.It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence mechanism to…
Societal Gaslighting And Narcissistic Parents
Gaslighting by Society Growing up in a narcissistic family is made more difficult because the child is gaslit within the family and they are also often gaslit by society in…
Children of Narcissists on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRI1HSzwpAc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4nK9bcvg2ghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZU7EP2uMoUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxTaPDbhMf8The Harsh Inner CriticWhy we may struggle to have self-compassion. Narcissistic Personality Disorder and EmpathyWhy do narcissists fail to be empathic?Body Image, Binge Eating, DysmorphiaMany children of narcissists struggle with…
Trauma – Anger, Fear and Shame
Here is a PowerPoint which explains the role of the emotions of Fear, Anger and Shame that come with surviving trauma.
Narcissists and Unhealthy Boundaries
Narcissistic Families and BoundariesWhat are Boundaries?A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for others and…
