Cognitive Errors
A child who grows up in a narcissistic family will develop a distorted view of the world and themselves. This is their trauma bias. They will have difficulties in thinking…
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Workaholism / Keeping Busy
Workaholism and Keeping Busy (Part of the Abandonment Depression) A workaholic can be defined as a person who spends a majority of their time working compulsively and excessively, often to…
Anxiety, despair and depression
The Abandonment Depression
10,004 words, 60 minutes read time. The Abandonment Depression Adapted from ‘The Search for the Real Self’ by James F. Masterson If we have come from a narcissistic family, understanding…
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Was It That Bad? How Low-Key Abuse Has a Profound Effect
Was It That Bad?Many people who have grown up with a narcissistic parent often question whether their childhood was ‘that bad.’ They may know they were unhappy as a child…
Why Relationships Can Be Difficult
Why Are Relationships Often Difficult for People Who Have Come From a Narcissistic Family? An issue which troubles many people who come from narcissistic families is that they struggle in…
The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect UsDefences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive communication.When we have come from a…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?Learning to be Compliant and AgreeableWhen we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into being compliant,…
Amygdala in the brain, and closeup view of amygdala neurons, 3D illustration. Two almond-shaped clusters of nuclei within temporal lobes, part of the limbic system, play role in memory and emotions
Our Biological Defences
What are our Biological Defences? Our biological defences are made up of our brain, nervous system, body and emotions working together to protect us from harm. This article looks at…
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Avoiding The Avoidable
What is Avoidance?Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening.It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence mechanism to…
Children of Narcissists on YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRI1HSzwpAc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l4nK9bcvg2ghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZU7EP2uMoUhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxTaPDbhMf8The Harsh Inner CriticWhy we may struggle to have self-compassion. Narcissistic Personality Disorder and EmpathyWhy do narcissists fail to be empathic?Body Image, Binge Eating, DysmorphiaMany children of narcissists struggle with…
Trauma – Anger, Fear and Shame
Here is a PowerPoint which explains the role of the emotions of Fear, Anger and Shame that come with surviving trauma.
Narcissists and Unhealthy Boundaries
Narcissistic Families and BoundariesWhat are Boundaries?A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for others and…