Archetypes – Aspects of Ourselves
The History of Archetypes The concept of archetypes can be found in the writings of Plato over 2,000 years ago. Plato’s concept was that eidos,
Logical Fallacies – Errors in Thinking
What is a Logical Fallacy? A logical fallacy can be described as flawed thinking: Logical = Something based on reason and good judgement Fallacy =
Guidance and Advice (Quotes)
Guidance, mentoring and advice is lacking when one comes from a narcissistic family. Please see the wisdom below from an emperor of Rome, poets, the
Cognitive Errors
A child who grows up in a narcissistic family will develop a distorted view of the world and themselves. This is their trauma bias. They
Workaholism / Keeping Busy
Workaholism and Keeping Busy (Part of the Abandonment Depression) A workaholic can be defined as a person who spends a majority of their time working
The Abandonment Depression
10,004 words, 60 minutes read time. The Abandonment Depression Adapted from ‘The Search for the Real Self’ by James F. Masterson If we have come
Society and the Denial of Trauma
Judith Herman is a psychiatrist and author who first proposed Complex PTSD as a separate diagnosis from PTSD. The excerpt below is from the book
The Role of The Scapegoat
Definitions of ‘Scapegoat’ Someone who is blamed or punished for another’s faults or actions. A person or thing that is blamed for something bad that
The Effects of Verbal Abuse
What is the definition of verbal abuse? Verbal abuse- noun.Very rude and offensive words spoken to another person.https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/verbal-abuse ‘I Only Got Shouted At’ Abuse takes
Was It That Bad? How Low-Key Abuse Has a Profound Effect
Was It That Bad? Many people who have grown up with a narcissistic parent often question whether their childhood was ‘that bad.’ They may know
The Trauma Bond
Many of us are familiar with the term ‘trauma bond,’ but what does it actually mean? How can we explain the feeling that many people
Why Relationships Can Be Difficult
Why Are Relationships Often Difficult for People Who Have Come From a Narcissistic Family? An issue which troubles many people who come from narcissistic families
The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect Us Defences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No? Learning to be Compliant and Agreeable When we have grown up in a narcissistic family,
Our Biological Defences
What are our Biological Defences? Our biological defences are made up of our brain, nervous system, body and emotions working together to protect us from
Avoiding The Avoidable
What is Avoidance? Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening. It can be seen on
