The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect UsDefences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive communication.When we have come from a…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No? Learning to be Compliant and Agreeable When we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into…
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Avoiding The Avoidable
What is Avoidance? Avoidance is the action of keeping away from, not doing something or preventing something from happening. It can be seen on a spectrum from being a defence…
Societal Gaslighting And Narcissistic Parents
Gaslighting by Society Growing up in a narcissistic family is made more difficult because the child is gaslit within the family and they are also often gaslit by society in…
Trauma – Anger, Fear and Shame
Here is a PowerPoint which explains the role of the emotions of Fear, Anger and Shame that come with surviving trauma.
Narcissists and Unhealthy Boundaries
Narcissistic Families and Boundaries What are Boundaries? A boundary can be defined as a barrier which separates two things. Healthy psychological boundaries between people mean that there is respect for…
How We Self-Sabotage
Many children of narcissists self-sabotage as a consequence of their dysfunctional upbringing. Self-sabotage can be defined as acting in a way that is detrimental to both our well-being and to reaching our potential.
The Fear of Abandonment
What is the Fear of Abandonment?A fear of abandonment is a deep-seated fear of being left by people that you are close to. This fear affects your thoughts and behaviours.It…