Cognitive Errors
A child who grows up in a narcissistic family will develop a distorted view of the world and themselves. This is their trauma bias. They will have difficulties in thinking…
Workaholic Working On Desktop Computer
Workaholism / Keeping Busy
Workaholism and Keeping Busy (Part of the Abandonment Depression) A workaholic can be defined as a person who spends a majority of their time working compulsively and excessively, often to…
Anxiety, despair and depression
The Abandonment Depression
10,004 words, 60 minutes read time. The Abandonment Depression Adapted from ‘The Search for the Real Self’ by James F. Masterson If we have come from a narcissistic family, understanding…
Society and the Denial of Trauma
Judith Herman is a psychiatrist and author who first proposed Complex PTSD as a separate diagnosis from PTSD.The excerpt below is from the book Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman…
The Role of The Scapegoat
Definitions of 'Scapegoat'Someone who is blamed or punished for another’s faults or actions.A person or thing that is blamed for something bad that someone else has done.The term scapegoat comes…
The Effects of Verbal Abuse
What is the definition of verbal abuse? Verbal abuse- noun.Very rude and offensive words spoken to another person.https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/verbal-abuse 'I Only Got Shouted At' Abuse takes many forms and some people…
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Was It That Bad? How Low-Key Abuse Has a Profound Effect
Was It That Bad?Many people who have grown up with a narcissistic parent often question whether their childhood was ‘that bad.’ They may know they were unhappy as a child…
The Trauma Bond
Many of us are familiar with the term ‘trauma bond,’ but what does it actually mean? How can we explain the feeling that many people have of being very unhappy…
Why Relationships Can Be Difficult
Why Are Relationships Often Difficult for People Who Have Come From a Narcissistic Family? An issue which troubles many people who come from narcissistic families is that they struggle in…
The Price We Pay For Our Defences
Defences Protect UsDefences are necessary and we all need to have them. The ideal defences are the mature defences of sublimation, compensation and assertive communication.When we have come from a…
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?
How Do We Say No When We Can’t Say No?Learning to be Compliant and AgreeableWhen we have grown up in a narcissistic family, we have been conditioned into being compliant,…
Amygdala in the brain, and closeup view of amygdala neurons, 3D illustration. Two almond-shaped clusters of nuclei within temporal lobes, part of the limbic system, play role in memory and emotions
Our Biological Defences
What are our Biological Defences? Our biological defences are made up of our brain, nervous system, body and emotions working together to protect us from harm. This article looks at…